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The Art of Falling in Love with Your Nemesis

Published 2 months ago • 2 min read

Hi Reader,

Last week, week talked about everyone’s favorite love story, Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen. The novel is one of the earliest and most iconic examples of the enemies to lovers trope. This is such a popular trope that I wanted to talk a bit more about it.

There's just something about watching two characters go from "I can't stand the sight of you" to "I can't live without you" that grabs us, hook, line and sinker.

Why We Can't Get Enough of Enemies to Lovers

Dramatic Tension and Conflict: This trope is like the rollercoaster you're scared to ride but can't resist. The ups and downs, the twists and turns of characters moving from conflict to love, keep us on the edge of our seats. It's this tension and eventual resolution that make the story so gripping.

Character Growth: Watching characters evolve from enemies to lovers is like witnessing a caterpillar transform into a butterfly. This growth is deeply satisfying, as it's a journey not just of love, but of self-discovery.

Chemistry and Banter: The witty exchanges and fiery debates between the characters serve as a prelude to love, showcasing a connection that's as intellectual as it is emotional. This banter is often the highlight for audiences, showcasing the characters' compatibility beyond their initial animosity.

Theme of Reconciliation: This trope teaches us that love can bridge divides, heal old wounds, and overcome prejudices. It's a hopeful reminder that understanding and empathy can transform even the staunchest enemies into allies, or better yet, lovers.

Variations of the Trope (Which are other Tropes)

🥇Competitors to Lovers: Characters may start as rivals in professional settings, sports, or academics, where competition gives way to love. You've Got Mail (1998) Two bookstore owners who are business rivals by day but unknowingly fall in love with each other over the internet. This is a remake of The Shop Around the Corner (1940).

Another example is The Hating Game (2021) Based on the bestselling novel by Sally Thorne. There is intense rivalry and sexual tension between two executive assistants competing for the same promotion, which eventually leads to love.

💻Forced to Work Together: Two people who dislike each other are forced to work together, falling in love in the process. The Cutting Edge (1992) An uptight figure skater and down to earth hockey player become figure skating partners and make it to the Olympics, falling in love.

💍Fake Engagement/Relationship: The Proposal (2009) An book editor and her assistant have a fake engagement so she can stay in the country. Their initial employer-employee hostility turns into love.

💞 Second Chance Romance: Two former lovers, who parted on bad terms, fight and quip their way to falling back in love. In His Girl Friday (1940) a cunning newspaper editor uses every trick in the book to keep his ex-wife and star reporter from remarrying, leading to a series of comedic and romantic misadventures that reignite their passion.

The enemies to lovers trope endures because it mirrors the complexity and unpredictability of real-life relationships, reminding us that love often comes from the most unexpected places. Here's to the lovers who started off as enemies; may their journeys continue to inspire and entertain us for years to come!


Last year we talked about love in stories in honor of Valentine’s Day. In case you missed them:

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Lindsey

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